In this article, you’ll discover the 10 most powerful techniques to sexualize a conversation with a woman.
Whether it’s your ex or a girl who ghosted you and you want to win her back, or whether you’re at a friend’s party, on the street, in a bar/club, at a café, or on a first date, etc.
By the end of this article, you’ll be sure of two things:
- Make your ex or a girl who ghosted you feel excitement again.
- Never hear the infamous phrase “I’d rather we stay friends” again—and avoid the friendzone for good.
- Know how to sexualize conversations in the best way to arouse women WITHOUT coming off as creepy or pushy.
Learning to create sexual tension is indeed crucial for your romantic success.
Whether you simply want a girlfriend, to have casual flings, to collect friends-with-benefits, or to reignite the spark with a woman where routine may have taken over in your past relationship…
You must learn how to sexualize a conversation with a woman you’re attracted to.
In the lines that follow, you’ll discover the 10 best techniques to do just that—and stand out from the crowd.
And thus, avoid being part of the 97% of men who “try to sexualize” but end up seeming creepy, scaring women away, and staying alone.
1) “Booster” Phrases
What’s that?
These are simple phrases that will instantly ramp up the sexual tension between you two.
Imagine your conversation like an electrocardiogram.
With each of these phrases, you create a spike, and the sexual tension rises a notch.
Then, you change the subject to let it come back down.
Of course, you shouldn’t overuse them or say them every five minutes.
It’s this cycle of peaks and valleys that will start to sexually excite them…
Trust me, once you’ve done several cycles like this and move your hand down a level…
Don’t be surprised if you notice it’s already wet, even though you haven’t physically touched her yet!
It’s also important that when you change the subject, you don’t answer her questions directly.
This creates intrigue, and she’ll chase you even more—because she’ll want to know the answer and invest even more in the conversation.
Here are some examples of “booster” phrases to sexualize a conversation:
1st example:
“If you knew what I was thinking right now, you’d blush…”
The girl in question will immediately understand what you’re talking about and react with something like:
“Oh really? What are you thinking about, sex?”
Reply like this to keep some mystery:
“We can talk about that later. By the way, you said you were studying law, right?”
2nd example:
“I know we’re talking about XYZ right now, but your legs… They’re distracting me from our conversation.”
3rd example:
“Those heels you’re wearing are sexy, but they should be pointing up toward the sky instead of the ground. “
You can see here that everything is about subtlety.
You’re subtly communicating something sexual to her subconscious without being vulgar or pushy—and women love that.
2) Fake Facts
Here, you’ll use completely made-up examples—but they’re very easy to implement to start discussing sex in a casual way, without vulgarity or awkwardness.
For example, you can tell her:
“I heard women who wear red attract more men. Were you planning to add me to your list tonight? Hahaha.”
This is a solid, credible remark since red is the color of desire and love.
If she’s not wearing red, try this:
“Did you know women with the letter ‘A’ in their name sleep with more guys on average? What do you think, Vanessa? :P”
(Obviously, replace “A” with another letter if her name doesn’t include it.)
And finally, this one’s my personal favorite:
You: “Did you know 90% of women masturbate in the shower? The other 10% sing. Guess what they all sing?”
Her: “Uh… no?”
You: “No? Then I guess you’re in the 90% :P”
Later, you can even follow up with:
“Nah, just kidding—I know you’re a virgin like me and also saving yourself for marriage.”
Deliver these lines with a big smile, playful energy, and a teasing tone.Women love this, and you’ll often find them playing along. It’s a fun, light way to sexualize the conversation—exactly how they appreciate it.
3) Playful Accusations
This is another fun, low-pressure way to sexualize a conversation and avoid being seen as asexual (and friendzoned).
Playfully “accuse” her of making you attracted to her. For example:
- “Stop looking at me like that—I’m a well-behaved guy! :P”
- “You seem like a sweet, innocent girl… but something tells me you’re wild when you let loose.”
- If she’s impressing you: “Stop acting/saying things like that, or I’ll start falling for you :p”
The advantage? You reverse the roles—subtly implying she’s the one chasing you.
4) Sexual Questions
This is a devilishly effective and very explicit approach, but you need to introduce the topic smoothly.
First, I recommend using this technique either during a first date or after knowing her for a while. Doing it too soon will make you seem like you only have one thing on your mind.
Obviously if it’s your ex, you can use these questions
How to introduce these questions?
Start by playfully pointing out two people and asking if she thinks they’d make a good couple. Regardless of her answer, follow up with:
“If there were a guy here you could see yourself marrying—with kids, a house, and a Labrador—who would it be?”
After she answers, continue:
“Okay… Now if there were a guy here you’d want for a one-night stand with no strings attached, who would it be?”
Then you can ask:
- Whether she thinks women cheat more than men
- If she’s ever cheated herself
- If she’s ever kissed or slept with a woman
- What her worst sexual experience was
- What makes her fantasize…
Start very soft and gradually escalate based on her receptiveness.
Crucial: Share your own stories too—this should be a two-way conversation, not just you rapid-firing questions.
5) Switching Between Sincere & Playful Modes
When interacting with women, alternating between sincerity and teasing shows attraction while sexualizing conversations naturally.
Phase 1 (Sincere):
Use direct, genuine compliments like:
“I really enjoy your company.”
“You look sexy tonight.”
“I love your [specific personality trait]—it’s really attractive.”Phase 2 (Playful):
Challenge her with sarcasm:
“Let’s be real, you and I are just gonna be friends. Physically? Zero attraction here. ;)”
Or:
“Full disclosure: I’m jobless, friendless, and so bored I chat up women I find totally unattractive… like you. ;)”
Key: Always deliver these with a smirk so she knows you’re joking.
Why This Works
- Sexual questions create intimacy when timed right.
- Sincerity + teasing balances attraction and challenge.
- Emojis/smileys (like “;)”) maintain playful tone.
6) Physical Proximity
If you’re standing 2 meters apart, you won’t build sexual tension – whether it’s daytime or nighttime.
You must find ways to get closer:
- Ideally sit side-by-side
- Let your leg brush against hers
- Allow shoulders to touch when seated
- In loud venues, speak directly into her ear
- On a terrace, whisper the “booster phrases” we discussed earlier… Guaranteed effect!
Simply being close to someone naturally creates subtle sexual electricity.
7) “Are You Seeing Someone?”
This is an effective question to show interest and gently sexualize the conversation – but timing is crucial.
Why timing matters:
- Too late: You might waste time on a taken woman who just enjoys male attention for validation.
- Too early: You’ll seem desperate for any single woman rather than interested in her.
Execute perfectly:
Casually ask “So, are you seeing someone?” in a relaxed tone. This implicitly communicates:
- You view her as a potential partner
- You’re confident enough to own that intention
Key Psychological Principles:
- Proximity triggers attraction (social psychology “mere exposure effect”)
- Direct questions demonstrate boldness (women respond to calibrated assertiveness)
- Nonverbal escalation > verbal (90% of sexual tension is physical, not verbal)
8) Slower Speech Pace
Your speaking style plays a crucial role in sexualizing conversations.
Key points:
- Fast or choppy speech = kills sexual tension (projects stress/lack of confidence)
- Slow, deliberate pace = builds attraction (use diaphragm voice, not chest voice)
How to execute:
- Speak from your belly (deeper, resonant tone)
- Consciously slow your words
- Maintain steady eye contact
This combination naturally sexualizes the atmosphere—women sense it immediately.
9) Tactile Escalation
Physical touch is the ultimate “I’m-not-your-friend” signal. Bonus: It gauges her interest level through her reactions.
Gradual Touch Progression (Observe Her Responses):
- If she doesn’t pull away/reciprocates: Green light.
- If she retreats or tenses: Pause and reset.
Concrete Moves to Start:
- Forearm/Shoulder Touch
- Best when teasing her
- “Accidentally” brush her watch/bracelet as pretext
Lower Back Guidance
- Brief hand placement when walking through crowds
Arm Around Shoulder (Seated)
- Keep it short—lingering feels clingy
Hair Pretext
- “You’ve got something in your hair…” (gentle strand tuck)
Hand-Holding Tests
- Lead her from dancefloor to bar
- Give a light squeeze—if she reciprocates, you’re golden
Why This Works
- Voice: Slow speech triggers primal attraction (studies show deeper, measured voices are perceived as more dominant/sexual)
- Touch: The “reciprocity rule” – if she mirrors your physical escalation, her interest is confirmed
10) The Power of Eye Contact
You must intensify your gaze to make her feel desired.
How?
By simply thinking about sexual things you’d like to do with her or have her do to you. These thoughts will unconsciously alter your eye expression in a way women instinctively recognize.
This isn’t the friendly, platonic look women get from “nice guys” – it’s the gaze of a man who knows what he wants and owns it completely, even without saying a word.
Pro Tip:
Practice the “triangle technique”:
- Alternate between her right eye
- Left eye
- Lips
(Like visually tracing a triangle)
This subtly sexualizes interactions through eye contact alone.
Key Takeaways
What you need to remember: No matter which techniques you choose to use (you can even combine several) to sexualize a conversation with a woman.
It is CRUCIAL to watch the girl’s reaction to see if she’s comfortable with it or not.
If she is, great, you can simply continue like this and gradually escalate.
If not, it’s probably still too early and you need to wait to know her a little better.
Or maybe it’s already too late and you’re trying these techniques with a girl you’ve been seeing for months without having tried anything with her before.
In this case, these techniques are ineffective, because she has simply friendzoned you!
But rest assured, there are solutions to get out of the friendzone in the best possible way and thus still find a way to seduce this girl you like