Struggling with how to flirt with a girl?
This article reveals 7 keys to successfully flirt in any situation—whether you’re on a dating app, at a bar, in a club, or even just walking down the street.
Master these, and you’ll dramatically improve your results with women.
(Especially #7—it’s the most powerful one.)
Key 1: Be Sexual (Without Being Sleazy)
You must sexualize the interaction—subtly but clearly. Otherwise, you’ll end up in the friend zone.
How?
- Physical proximity: Sit close, let your leg barely touch hers, or lean in so your shoulders brush.
- Whisper something playful in her ear (keep it light).
- Use the “triangle gaze”: Alternate between her left eye, right eye, and lips 3-4 times during conversation. This builds instant sexual tension.
Key 2: Master Your Body Language
Words only account for 7% of communication. The other 93%? Tone, eye contact, and body language.
What to do:
- Slow down your speech.
- Smile with calm confidence.
Use pauses for emphasis.
A simple phrase delivered with the right energy beats a “perfect” pickup line every time.
Key 3: Personalized Complaints
Forget generic lines like “You’re beautiful.” Stand out by noticing specific details:
- “That necklace really highlights your collarbone—it’s elegant.”
- “You’ve got this mischievous smile… I’m intrigued.”
Women remember men who actually pay attention.
Key 4: Tease Her Playfully
Women are emotional creatures, not logical. Spark those emotions by:
- Gently mocking her (e.g., “Wait, you actually like pineapple on pizza?”).
- Smirking while you say it—she’ll know it’s just fun.
Warning: Keep it respectful. The goal is laughter, not offense.
Key 5: Don’t Be Too Available
Seduction is a game of scarcity. If you’re always at her beck and call, she’ll lose interest.
Examples:
- Wait 20-30 minutes before replying to texts.
- If she invites you out last-minute, decline if you’re busy (“Wish I could—already have plans. Next time?”).
Key 6: Own Your Confidence
Women are drawn to men who radiate self-assurance. Show her you:
- Know what you want (in life and with her).
- Aren’t afraid to lead.
Pro tip: Stand tall, speak slowly, and hold eye contact.
Key 7: Become the Best Version of Yourself
This is the #1 rule. No pickup lines or tricks will work long-term if you neglect:
- Your confidence (inner game > scripts).
- Your style (dress like a man she’d want to be seen with).
- Your lifestyle (hit the gym, pursue passions, level up).
As Jim Rohn said:
“Success isn’t something you pursue—it’s something you attract by the person you become.”